If I have to guess, making excuses is probably the one skill that 99.99% of us are very good at. We’re all guilty of this at one point in life, I know I am. Excuses are a handy justification to not do things we should be doing so we don’t feel really bad about it.
From the big dream-breaker like “I couldn’t get that job, I’m not that good” to as simple as “I’m tired, I’ll exercise tomorrow”, excuses happens on a daily basis. As long as you keep making excuses, you wouldn’t feel all that bad.
That is until you realised that your life is running on auto-play and you’re wondering why. You’re wondering why you never get the dream job you wanted, the best spouse you could ever imagine or the very life you ever wish you had. You’re just there, living your life and in less and less control of it.
That’s the thing about making excuses, the more you do it the better you are at it. Do you ever wonder what would happen if you stop making excuses and actually started doing things?
Yeah, crazy right? Actually start doing things. But what things? What should I do? Well, most people stop doing what they want by clinging on these (super popular) reasonings: I don’t have time for it, I’m not good enough for it, I’m not sure what I want. Now let’s break this down.
I don’t have time for it
Oh please, if it’s important then you make time. If you don’t have time for it then it means it’s not that important for you.
I’m not good enough for it
Then be good at it. Make your self better one step at a time. Wanted to write a novel but can’t write? Then write every day until you’re good at it. Write a blog, do a short story, restaurant review, anything. Just keep on writing until you’re good at it. Want to be a public speaker? Talk to as many people as possible. Want to learn a new language? Join Duolingo or take weekly lessons.
I think you get the picture, if you want to be good at something. Do it every day on a small scale but don’t stop until you’re good at it. Mark your improvements and continue on forward. Nobody is great from the start, everyone is a beginner at one point.
You know the 2 things I hate back in school? Writing and Public Speaking. Now I’ve been writing my blog and have written for DailySocial and is a frequent public speaker in events and colleges.
Pay you dues.
I’m not sure that’s what I wanted
So you don’t go and find out? I’ve heard a lot of “It’s easy for you, you know what you want. Me, I haven’t the slightest clue”. Well why don’t you find out then. Imagine who you want to be in 5 years. Be very specific about it. Then imagine what they need to go through to do it.
Got someone in mind? If he/she is reachable then go and reach them out. You might be thinking “What!? Are you crazy?”. Well no, not really. Most people are reachable by email and social media. Reach them out, see where that leads.
I’ve met with a lot of my mentors and business partners. I remember a couple of years back, I bought a one hours standup special by Louis C.K and I love it. I paid $5 with paypal, download the file and watch it anywhere I want. It’s so easy and convenient and I wondered why nobody in Indonesia is doing it. So I reach out to Pandji via twitter, he asked me to join his basketball game on Monday and I did just that. I went there, pitch my idea and BOOM, wsydnshop.com happened. He launched all of his digital downloads and is doing very well for him and of course for me as well. That one gig leads to another gig with Ernest Prakasa with his hahaha-store.com and Raditya Dika as well. All of that wouldn’t happen if I didn’t have the courage to reach him out and pitch it right then and there, at the basketball court, all sweaty and tired. Fun times. More on this, tees.co.id wouldn’t have happened if Gary didn’t reach out to me and pitch his idea.
So again, reach out. Make things happen.